Comments on: Single 2.0 http://speak-on-it.com/2009/06/single2/ any of it... Sat, 01 May 2010 14:46:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Justin http://speak-on-it.com/2009/06/single2/comment-page-1/#comment-19008 Justin Tue, 23 Jun 2009 19:12:50 +0000 http://speak-on-it.com/?p=1068#comment-19008 A bit late to the party, but some thoughts. This is something I go through phases with. 2008 was my year of having first dates where every girl I met wanted to sleep with me on the first date. Which, by the way, can be somewhat off-putting. 2009 was me returning from my 2008-inspired dating hiatus, and finding I had lost my apparent charm. I keep trying to "date", but I can't seem to spark like I used to, even when I have a good time with someone. *That's* frustrating. It sounds silly, but I've had the best "luck" (ha ha, relatively speaking) online. The two girls I met at bars most recently were.. just, well, not nice people. The friend of a friend I went out with is actually pretty rad, but we didn't really hit it off. If you're curious, send me an email, and I can show you the site where I swoon over girls with glasses and a love for economics. Dating, though, is what you make it. If you don't want to worry about the person you're seeing "bumping uglies" with someone else, talk to them about it. Dating can be a weekly dinner and makeouts, or it can be attending parties & going hiking, seeing if you're going to like this person for many years to come. Of course, this might all be ridiculous, and I could be totally off the mark. I've been single for nigh-on three years or so. It's frustrating at times, but I figure it is what it is, and I can either let it make me unhappy, or learn to make the best of it :) A bit late to the party, but some thoughts.

This is something I go through phases with. 2008 was my year of having first dates where every girl I met wanted to sleep with me on the first date. Which, by the way, can be somewhat off-putting. 2009 was me returning from my 2008-inspired dating hiatus, and finding I had lost my apparent charm. I keep trying to “date”, but I can’t seem to spark like I used to, even when I have a good time with someone. *That’s* frustrating.

It sounds silly, but I’ve had the best “luck” (ha ha, relatively speaking) online. The two girls I met at bars most recently were.. just, well, not nice people. The friend of a friend I went out with is actually pretty rad, but we didn’t really hit it off. If you’re curious, send me an email, and I can show you the site where I swoon over girls with glasses and a love for economics.

Dating, though, is what you make it. If you don’t want to worry about the person you’re seeing “bumping uglies” with someone else, talk to them about it. Dating can be a weekly dinner and makeouts, or it can be attending parties & going hiking, seeing if you’re going to like this person for many years to come.

Of course, this might all be ridiculous, and I could be totally off the mark. I’ve been single for nigh-on three years or so. It’s frustrating at times, but I figure it is what it is, and I can either let it make me unhappy, or learn to make the best of it :)

]]> By: Just Playing Pretend http://speak-on-it.com/2009/06/single2/comment-page-1/#comment-19002 Just Playing Pretend Mon, 22 Jun 2009 18:34:19 +0000 http://speak-on-it.com/?p=1068#comment-19002 What is this dating concept you speak of? I don't get it either but I did appreciate this post. <strong>well, thanks :) What is this dating concept you speak of?

I don’t get it either but I did appreciate this post.

well, thanks :)

]]> By: Kali http://speak-on-it.com/2009/06/single2/comment-page-1/#comment-18991 Kali Sat, 20 Jun 2009 12:35:04 +0000 http://speak-on-it.com/?p=1068#comment-18991 The boyf is always making fun of me asking what on earth I'd have done if he hadn't come along; He's all "You won't date someone unless you know them, but you can't know them unless you date them... You'd have been stuck forever!" This is true, but luckily with him we somehow skipped the dating part and fell headfirst into a relationship without a single date. In fact I only went on a date with him for the first time about a month into our relationship. So there you go - it CAN be done! It just happens! <strong>You're adorable. And thank you. The boyf is always making fun of me asking what on earth I’d have done if he hadn’t come along; He’s all “You won’t date someone unless you know them, but you can’t know them unless you date them… You’d have been stuck forever!”

This is true, but luckily with him we somehow skipped the dating part and fell headfirst into a relationship without a single date. In fact I only went on a date with him for the first time about a month into our relationship.

So there you go – it CAN be done! It just happens!

You’re adorable. And thank you.

]]> By: Lost Artist http://speak-on-it.com/2009/06/single2/comment-page-1/#comment-18973 Lost Artist Fri, 19 Jun 2009 13:06:37 +0000 http://speak-on-it.com/?p=1068#comment-18973 Ha ha. I know exactly what you mean. I met this guy. We made out. Our next "date" was hanging out a bar after he got off work. And there was a group of friends there with us. We made out again later, but is that "dating"? I really don't know. I'm moving to a different state, and I have to admit, a huge motivation is because I feel like I've tapped the dating pool here in this city. ("Tapped" -ha ha!) Ha ha. I know exactly what you mean. I met this guy. We made out. Our next “date” was hanging out a bar after he got off work. And there was a group of friends there with us. We made out again later, but is that “dating”? I really don’t know.

I’m moving to a different state, and I have to admit, a huge motivation is because I feel like I’ve tapped the dating pool here in this city. (“Tapped” -ha ha!)

]]> By: Andhari http://speak-on-it.com/2009/06/single2/comment-page-1/#comment-18972 Andhari Fri, 19 Jun 2009 09:01:33 +0000 http://speak-on-it.com/?p=1068#comment-18972 In the market for a hot date but don't know where to find any, myself. Guys can be seriously weird and clueless. In the market for a hot date but don’t know where to find any, myself. Guys can be seriously weird and clueless.

]]> By: Sid http://speak-on-it.com/2009/06/single2/comment-page-1/#comment-18971 Sid Fri, 19 Jun 2009 07:25:44 +0000 http://speak-on-it.com/?p=1068#comment-18971 I hate going out on first dates ... when you don't really know someone. I've been on a couple where I was just completely and utterly bored. The guys had nice bodies but absolutely no personality whatsoever. Horrid. I hate going out on first dates … when you don’t really know someone. I’ve been on a couple where I was just completely and utterly bored. The guys had nice bodies but absolutely no personality whatsoever. Horrid.

]]> By: floreta http://speak-on-it.com/2009/06/single2/comment-page-1/#comment-18970 floreta Fri, 19 Jun 2009 06:54:37 +0000 http://speak-on-it.com/?p=1068#comment-18970 ps: and i was thinking of actually writing about the topic of rejection too.. but i don't have the energy right now. that shits drainin.. ps: and i was thinking of actually writing about the topic of rejection too.. but i don’t have the energy right now. that shits drainin..

]]> By: floreta http://speak-on-it.com/2009/06/single2/comment-page-1/#comment-18969 floreta Fri, 19 Jun 2009 05:58:14 +0000 http://speak-on-it.com/?p=1068#comment-18969 i'm scared of dating too. i'm scared of letting anyone in. i think dating is a waste of my time. i think it's exhausting to 'start over'. i’m scared of dating too. i’m scared of letting anyone in. i think dating is a waste of my time. i think it’s exhausting to ’start over’.

]]> By: Suburban Sweetheart http://speak-on-it.com/2009/06/single2/comment-page-1/#comment-18968 Suburban Sweetheart Fri, 19 Jun 2009 01:49:03 +0000 http://speak-on-it.com/?p=1068#comment-18968 Get outta my head. I think this every day: How am I supposed to date if I refuse to meet new people? And if I think every guy, ever, is creepy??? Get outta my head.

I think this every day: How am I supposed to date if I refuse to meet new people? And if I think every guy, ever, is creepy???

]]> By: Narm http://speak-on-it.com/2009/06/single2/comment-page-1/#comment-18966 Narm Fri, 19 Jun 2009 01:11:19 +0000 http://speak-on-it.com/?p=1068#comment-18966 I wouldn't trade the Lady Friend for anything - but don't be scared to bend over and smell the roses now and then. Being single has it's perks. As for places to meet people - sporting events and concerts. Get em out of the bar so they are sober. You can always get em drunk and tear off their pants later. I wouldn’t trade the Lady Friend for anything – but don’t be scared to bend over and smell the roses now and then. Being single has it’s perks.

As for places to meet people – sporting events and concerts. Get em out of the bar so they are sober. You can always get em drunk and tear off their pants later.

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