No Bitchassness Allowed
Posted by Deutlich on April 23rd, 2008 | Filed under: UncategorizedI have a bone to pick.
I seriously hate when people can’t grow enough balls to just say what needs to be said. I get it. Words have a way of taking flight, bending and landing in a completely different manner than they were intended.
I GET IT.
But fuck if it doesn’t annoy the piss out of me.
All this pussy footing around and pretending that the big elephant isn’t in the room makes no damn sense to me.
If you’re acting like a damn idiot, I will tell you.
If you’re McAwesome, I will tell you.
If you’re in need of advice, I will give the best advice I can.
If you need me to drive 600 miles because you are car-less and there is an emergency, I will do it.
When it comes to getting things off my chest, I don’t hold punches.
I just don’t.
Maybe it’s the black in me. Maybe it’s the German. Maybe it’s just the fact that I’ve always been on the outside looking in and what the fuck does it matter anyway?
We only have one life to live. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. Neither is the rest of the damn afternoon.
I am trying – so hard – to take the high road but I am fighting the urge to leave a really nasty fucking message.
I’m a really nice person. I at least try to be. But when I’m pushed I blow.
And it’s not pretty.
/rant.
April 23rd, 2008 at 4:06 pm
Okay… so I went through the mind struggle of “do I be an ass” or “do I not be an ass” and now I wish I had just told the motha effer how I REALLY feel.
Like I know it’s great to be a “civilized” adult and everything, but I can’t help but wish EVERY DAY that i had told him what a shitty person he is.
So… I mean it’s up to you… but you may regret it if you don’t do it. and you’ll look like you’re still hanging on if you wait too long.
April 23rd, 2008 at 4:38 pm
The high road is for suckers…
April 23rd, 2008 at 4:48 pm
I agree with Ben!
You tell ‘em girl!
April 23rd, 2008 at 5:00 pm
there is so much to be said for speaking your truth.
big hugs to you dear.
April 23rd, 2008 at 5:06 pm
or alternatively, send him this post
seriously, you may try to take the high road, but at a certain point? You can only take so much.
April 23rd, 2008 at 5:07 pm
what about a bit of bitchassness? Not too much.
I say what needs to be said. But then I say too much of it.
April 23rd, 2008 at 5:26 pm
I’m with you 194%!!
April 23rd, 2008 at 5:28 pm
Man, the high road may or may not be the right road but damn is it not satisfying. I’m impressed.
April 23rd, 2008 at 5:36 pm
The concept of why people don’t just say the fucking truth or what is actually on their mind has been the Hajj of my 20s.
April 23rd, 2008 at 6:09 pm
seriously, i don’t think i could have put it any better. you rock my socks off.
April 23rd, 2008 at 6:19 pm
You? Are McAwesome. The world needs more people who aren’t afraid to say what they mean and mean what they say.
April 23rd, 2008 at 6:29 pm
oh i how i love a good rant.
get it out girl.
and maybe just kick him or the world in the balls next time you feel like it.
no regrets, NO regrets.
April 23rd, 2008 at 6:40 pm
I totally agree! Sometimes people care a little too much about what others will think, when most of the time its not that big of an issue. Good luck.
April 23rd, 2008 at 7:06 pm
So… are you gonna serve that with a side of whoopass, or not?
*stands by and cheers*
April 23rd, 2008 at 7:06 pm
I totally agree with you. I hate when people don’t say what needs to be said. My friends can always guarantee me to tell it like it is, whether it’s good or bad.
Lately here there have been mad breakouts of bitchassness. I don’t know what the hell is going on…
p.s. I like that word McAwesome. Might need to add that to my vocab
April 23rd, 2008 at 8:04 pm
Ohhh girly what is going on! I would not want to be on your bad side that is for sure. But if someone is fuckin’ with you, you have every right to lash out!
April 23rd, 2008 at 8:05 pm
By the way I love the use of Bitchassness! This is totally my favorite word ever. All hail to Diddy.
April 23rd, 2008 at 8:07 pm
Well, I’m the queen of non-confrontation, but then once I start talking I usually end up saying EVERYTHING and going too far. Apparently I don’t know the meaning of “happy medium”!!
Good luck with whatever decision you make, but if it needs to be said, I think you should say it!
April 23rd, 2008 at 8:30 pm
UH.. I agree.
and I TAGGED YOU!! not in like the sexual sense, but I have been lying and telling people I did. Cuz im a jerk ass jerk.
anyway tagged you so get to writing.
http://getnekkid.blogspot.com/2008/04/i-got-tagged.html
April 23rd, 2008 at 8:38 pm
of course i loved this rant.
April 23rd, 2008 at 9:47 pm
Lovely fucken post, i’m a fan now.
April 23rd, 2008 at 10:49 pm
Do it! It always makes me feel better depite the ruckus it causes.
April 23rd, 2008 at 11:31 pm
Maybe you just need a hug?
April 24th, 2008 at 12:20 am
not a hug, a high five. i’ve been in a situation the past handful of days and this makes me want to throw the metal horns \m/ because i am so with you on this.
April 24th, 2008 at 12:49 am
Wow.
April 24th, 2008 at 1:07 am
Maxie – sometimes, we just need to be assholes. Period.
Ben – IT IS!
Allie-gator – Aye Aye Capitaine
Brookem – Thanks, love.
Tiff – hahaha.. he DOES have my blog address.. that stupid git.
RS27 – Sometimes, so do I..
Jenn – AWESOME!
Jess – Danke!
Dutchess – Dude. Yes.
Katelin – Aww, thank you.
Underpaid – Aww, you’re gonna make my ego swell. I like it.
Alexa – Dude. Yes. Kicking in teh balls. I like it.
Passionista – Thanks, girl.
Nachi – I don’t know what’s going on either, maybe it’s something in the air?
Technodoll – YES
1218 – Shit, *I* wouldn’t wanna be on my bad side…
1218 – And yes. Me too. Love Sean for sayin’ that shit.
Wickedly Scarlett – Happy mediums are for wimps, hahaha
Slaus – Awww, shucks! I feel special!
Surviving – I figured as much, haha.
Bossmack – Welcome to my neck of the world!
PrincessB – Dude. Yes.
Prin – I’m always down for those
Nico – HA! Thanks! High fives are the shit. And yes, this crap burns my bubble.
Dan Mega – Be glad I’m not in full throttle mode.. I am .. not nice when pushed to the extreme. I’m not. At all.
April 24th, 2008 at 3:19 am
I sign that rant, except for the being black part, mix some Dutch in it for me
But in this case I would say, just ignore the fuck out of him.
He’s an idiot that doesn’t deserve any more attention.
Just my 2 Cents.
April 24th, 2008 at 4:32 am
It’s a proven fact that sitting on an issue does not make it go away. It just makes for a hell of a bigger explosion when it does make it to the surface.
April 24th, 2008 at 4:46 am
Here Here! … or [insert snappy fingers and head swaying here] you can say that again honey.
April 24th, 2008 at 7:09 am
When I’m pissed off at someone I wait a few days to kewl off first before I let go. I’m unable to keep silent so the best I can hope for is not being a total, screaming lunatic.
April 24th, 2008 at 11:16 am
Come to Ireland.
I need a distraction, and you need booze.
April 24th, 2008 at 3:42 pm
your horoscope in the Express today says:
you may be wondering what it all means, but the fact is that the most important lessons are those that are most easily learned at this time
I know everyone on here has been rallying behind you on this. And don’t think I’m not. Cuz you know I’m here for you always. But I really want you to see the full picture before you do something you might kick yourself for later.
Does it suck he hasn’t said anything to you? I can only imagine, sweets. Seriously. But again, just rationalize it. It took you forever and ten days to tell him. Just because you’re ready for a response now doesn’t exactly mean he’s ready to give it. Even if it’s just a simple “I’ll get back to you”. He may have been trying to take it all in just like you had to take everything in with your decision on whether or not you say something. And PS- I thought he said he’d get back to you on it pre-hospital stay? No?
In any event… you’re emotionally invested in this right now and when that happens your keen ability to rationalize and be the intelligent powerhouse I know you are gets a nice ass kicking. I’m only saying this from experience.
Again… you guys were friends prior to this. If you want to tell him how him not responding hurts, awesome. We both know I’m not above self-expression, especially if in the event someone just isn’t aware of how their actions impact the other. But hunny the last thing you wanna do is send a nasty message… only to find out that it was all a big misunderstanding. Remember… you did tell him to slap on a big “just kidding” to what you said. And maybe he’s doing that. And maybe he’s being an asshole. Or maybe he just doesn’t know what to say or how to say it. Who knows.
But find a happy medium. Because if it isn’t a big misunderstanding on his end, on both ends, whatever… at least you said how you felt without degrading yourself to be nasty and possibly hurting someone you cared about, potentially making a really awkward experience for you both.
Come away from it. And think of how you’d want him to come at you. I heart you regardless. I just don’t wanna see you fall into that ever elusive but temptingly easy girl trap. You’re better than that.
April 24th, 2008 at 3:50 pm
Nicole – True that!
Princess Pointful – Precisely.. i don’t dig explosions.
Emily – Ha! I love it.
Sid – Cool down periods are awesome.
Kali – I think that’s a damn fine idea.
Fat.Girl.Slim – Two things. A) This picture of a happily ever after? It’s not going to happen. It’s just not. I can be as patient as I want, hopeful as I want, rosy as I want – it’s not going to happen. I’ve come to terms with that. Please, for the love of all things shiny, do not try to persuade me of it being something else. It’s just. not. going. to . happen. B) I may rant and rave in my blog, but I tend to find that happy medium without blowing up like an asshole in real life. While I WANT to leave him a fucked up message – that is just NOT how I roll… unless you’re a bitch roommate that fucked me over on money. That’s a whole other story. Anyway, this subject has been laid to rest. It’s done with. Period. Over. I just chose my blog as a place to express how I really feel. I’m allowed that.
April 24th, 2008 at 6:27 pm
Thank you so much! OMG! You are awesome.
I think this was a big issue in my marriage. Sometimes I just wanted the X-husband to say something, but instead he’d pussy foot around to try and spare everyone’s fucking feelings. Drove me up a god damn wall.
April 24th, 2008 at 6:27 pm
Thank you so much! OMG! You are awesome.
I think this was a big issue in my marriage. Sometimes I just wanted the X-husband to say something, but instead he’d pussy foot around to try and spare everyone’s fucking feelings. Drove me up a god damn wall.
April 25th, 2008 at 6:21 pm
NO BITCHASSNESS!
May 20th, 2008 at 1:52 am
Cuddle bug. Aw
May 20th, 2008 at 7:44 am
i think your blog is attaching the wrong comments to each post…
when i used this theme (tarski) i had the exact same problem…